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I’m thrilled we’ve crossed paths, soooo let’s jump right in.
After last week’s Fearless Friday Newsletter, I received many responses from our fabulous community. Jonathan, from Ghana (#nobigdeal), shared a specific problem that SO MANY of us face. Thank you Jonathan for your vulnerability - What you shared about is so common, I wanted to make sure I addressed it within the whole community.
"My communication challenge is how to handle internal pressure/anxiety before the start of my talk (no matter the size of the group – 2 people and above.)…Whenever I’m about to speak, I get a strong feeling that I may make a mistake or not impress them...
Even though my listeners applaud and appreciate me, I usually feel unsatisfied after my talk.
How do I deal with this kind of pressure/ anxiety?"
Well, Jonathan, you can take a safe seat next to so many other leaders because this experience is very common!
Have you ever felt this way too?
Let me shed some light on how to tackle this like a boss.
Here’s the thing - I do this work all over the world and whether I’m speaking to Italians, Kenyans, Mexicans or Nuyorikans- the vast majority of us are covering up IMPOSTOR SYNDROME >> (the collection of feelings of inadequacy despite evident success.)
You may find comfort in knowing that statistics show 74% of people suffer from speech anxiety.
The other 26%? I believe are lying.
If you’re not experiencing any form of body sensation before you speak then you are not alive, darling!
Most of us have negative thought patterns that impact our mindset and the context of our speaking. You are simply creating a BELIEF in the room that you will make a mistake and that your audience will not be impressed.
That has nothing to do with what your audience is ACTUALLY thinking. I don’t think you went to Hogwarts and majored in MIND READING. 10 points for Gryffindor!
Instead, it has everything to do with what you FEAR they’re thinking because there is a part of you that believes that you’re not good enough. Guess what, you are GOOD ENOUGH! 10 more points for Gryffindor!
Fearless tip---> Before you speak, write down everything you fear the audience may think of you: “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, “I’m going to going to fumble and make a mistake”, They won’t understand my accent”, etc..
Read it over… and then tear it up.
Rip it up with PURPOSE.
Then surrender to the fear.
Surrender your perfectionism.
And take a deep breath.
Create a positive intention for your speaking. CONNECT with your audience. Commit to leaving them touched, moved and inspired.
This is one of the many tools I use to help manage my fear and the next time you speak, I invite you to try it too! A little bonus . . . the body sensations you are feeling may occur as FEAR and if you flip the context it can also occur as EXCITEMENT! So next time you speak, I invite you to fearLESS and GET EXCITED!!!
AAAAAAND now the moment I get to be like OPRAH! I have the perfect gift for you, to combat this anxiety.
It’s so perfect that Jonathan wrote us, because attached is a FREE go-to resource, a POCKET GUIDE, with some of my favorite tips and tools to speak powerfully and stand out from the crowd. But please don’t share this with anyone - this resource is just for you, << Test First Name >>, and the faithful and fearless members of our community. Download 10 SIMPLE BACKSTAGE TIPS TO TRANSFORM YOU FROM A SPEAKER TO A STAR, keep it on your phone, and next time you give a presentation take it out before you speak . . . you will be #nailingit I'm sure! Click here to get your FREE FEARLESS GIFT!
If you have questions on how to be a more effective speaker, drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let's get a conversation started.